Sunday, May 17, 2015

The Girls Club



When working in a male-dominated environment, there is something you must be aware of: you will never be one of the boys, and if there are any other females currently employed or hired, it is assumed you will become best friends. After all, the boys have their boys club so, in theory, the girls must have girls clubs, right? Not really. In reality, the idea of bonding with someone simply based off their gender is stupid. Just because I have a vagina and someone else has a vagina does not make me and that person kindred spirits. Women do not play by “bros before hos” rules, but rather bond over actual things that matter.

Sure, you may have some great women who work with you, but strip away gender of all the people you know and pretend they are just a bunch of worms. Worms have no sex. They’re just worms. But imagine those worms do have people traits like personalities and interests. You’ll be friends with the worms who are into the same stuff you’re into, possibly worms who share your sense of humor, political ideologies, code of ethics, and so forth. With that in mind, just because there’s some other women who work with you, that doesn’t mean you’re on the path to becoming BFFs. If you don’t have much in common, chances are you will be office acquaintances and make small talk at the water cooler, but not be going out on the weekend to hang out. And there’s nothing wrong with that.